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Our capacity for lasting coexistence

  Some time ago, it was pointed out to me that individual patterns—including those within intimate spheres—tend to extend across the entire social structure. Coexistence, or alignment in values and norms—along with peaceful living together—is a characteristic desired both at the individual and the societal level. As is often the case, however, we face the challenge of translating or implementing these desired traits into our daily lives. In intimate relationships, we tend to seek an ideal, conflict-free image of a partner. In principle, at least, we also look for compatibility in core personality traits. We hope that our own individualism will mesh with that of the other person, ensuring a peaceful domestic environment and a smooth journey through our shared life, free from major upheavals. After all—at least in the beginning—no one wants the significant turbulence that can arise from discord or misunderstandings between partners, especially regarding the fundamental principles of ...
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Naša sposobnost trajnega sožitja

  Že precej časa nazaj so me opozorili, da se individualni vzorci, tudi intimni, zelo radi raztegnejo kar čez vso družbeno strukturo. Sožitje ali ujemanje v vrednotah in normah ter mirno sobivanje so namreč tako individualno kot  družbeno želena karakteristika. Kot vedno pa imamo problem prenosa ali udejanja želenih lastnosti ali karakteristik v vsakodnevno življenje. V intimnih razmerjih naj bi iskali tisto idealno nekonfliktno podobo partnerjev. Vsaj načeloma naj bi iskali tudi ujemanje v glavnih karakteristikah osebnosti. Naš individualizem naj bi se prilegal na individualizem druge osebe in nam zagotavljal mirno družinsko okolje in tako imenovano plovbo skozi skupno življenje brez večjih pretresov. Nihče, vsaj v začetku, namreč ne potrebuje večjih pretresov, ki naj bi jih povzročala neskladja in/ali nerazumevanja med partnerji. Sploh pa ne v temeljnih načelih skupnega življenja. Ob tem je potrebno upoštevati tudi, da je postaja družbena norma tudi empatija do drugih. Empat...
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Rumor has it...

  Public opinion—shaped by information, primarily concerning others—is becoming an increasingly potent weapon, as one’s public image often serves as the ultimate arbiter of success or failure. The true reality, however, lies hidden in the background—and is sometimes entirely at odds with the facts. The motives behind crafting a public image for others are generally negative; they are rarely benign, often serving either direct commercial interests or specific, commissioned agendas. It is quite common to encounter individuals who construct their own public image through the lens of others. They have plenty to say about these other people, yet reveal very little about themselves. In effect, they divert attention away from their own selves toward others—often potential rivals—thereby obscuring their own true image. Ultimately, the root of this behavior lies in human nature. Today, we often say that information is the most valuable commodity; yet, we frequently overlook the veracity of ...
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