New Year's Theory "I and Others"

We have known two personality extremes of a person for a long time in the history of mankind. Throughout human history, we have known so-called egocentric people who only know themselves and their needs. We have also known such people throughout human history who give themselves away for others without thinking about satisfying their own needs, which means that they give others what they do not have themselves.

Throughout human history, and also so-called humanists or sympathizers, people have a hard time balancing the satisfaction of their own needs and the needs of others. Of course, we could also object to this, because many call such a comparison of one's own and other people's needs with a negative connotation of calculation or egocentrism or the me-first theory. However, our modern social system is also based on calculation.

First, in social society and the state, income per adult is compared, and then the income of children. There is even an income tax scale and the amount of minimum income for adults and children, which is supposed to cover basic living expenses.

This means, according to this self-theory or calculability, that we should first determine whether we have our own minimum income guaranteed per person and children. If we are on minimum income, we should not think about others, or listen to their financial hardships. Social work centers and individual benefactors who have exceeded the minimum income census should listen to other people's financial hardships.

It is similar with housing units. Here too, the state, through Social Centers, has determined the minimum square footage per member of a joint household or family. And again, it is supposed that those who live in a smaller square footage than is determined per household member should not listen to others about their housing hardships. An even worse situation in the area of people's mentality or even outright stupid humanity is shown by people with low square footage of living spaces, if they allow others to have a higher housing standard. A practical example of this is a person with a partner and two children in an old 30 m2 studio apartment who would like to provide a family of four with a new house measuring at least 120 m2.

I listen to those who have made their jobs available to others because they have taken early retirement, which means lower incomes. I hear about those who have made jobs available for their children and relatives by taking early retirement. I also hear about those who advise their loved ones on their own careers and the beginnings of independent living independently of their help, but offer it to others.

There are more and more such examples of our kindness without clear "I" needs or even needs for equality. And perhaps this is also the empathy desired in modern times, which does not allow for the revaluation of individual personal needs, which we then compare with the needs of others. In practical terms, this means that you do not provide others with more than you and your loved ones have.

 In the coming year, I wish you, first of all, a lot of egocentrism or orientation towards satisfying your own needs. If you find an excess in your "me and my closest" status, which usually includes the family or community of parents and children, then think about other needs, of course, with the note that you do not provide others with more than you have with your closest ones. 

In short: "Love yourself and your closest ones first, and then others" in the coming new calendar year of successes or failures according to your own or other people's stupidity and enter the new year with hope for better times.