The formation of a family as a problem of third parties.

 People like to believe, especially in Europe, in the so-called love of two or even a partnership, which slowly turns into the so-called nuclear family. A nuclear family means an extension of a partnership or union of two partners with a child or more children. This is an approximate and general description of our ideal of the crowned love of a man and a woman.

Throughout the era of the ideal of the family, so-called others or even third parties also appear in these unions, expressing their opinion on creating a new life together or even just creating an intimate relationship. 

The interference of the parents of the lovers in the history of the family was understood by many, because the so-called extended family, which lived in the common home of a loving or married couple with children, also often appeared with at least one parent. Usually, this home belonged to the parents, who very often still had the management of their home in their own hands. For this reason, their opinion was very often taken into account when concluding a marriage or wedding. We can nevertheless assess that the relationship of the new family member to the existing family members in the common home is not negligible. 

The relationship of other relatives or their interference was less understandable, if the future married couple did not express the intention to live in the common family home with other relatives. 

The common thread of the problem of new family members has always and still revolves around a common household in a common house and/or a common craft and/or a common property. In this case, the relationships between members of the extended family are closer and, of course, even everyday. In this context of issuing opinions or even taking their opinions into account about the new family or intimate relationship, possible children from previous relationships of one kind or another were also included. 

Social laws have also always recognized the so-called right of inheritance among close family members precisely because of the common property that was created before and during the marriage. And of course, for this reason, inheritance law often interfered with newly formed intimate relationships or even marriages, which could limit their inheritance rights. An adult who died without descendants and/or a spouse often "made his or her relatives happy" with inherited property.

It is also not insignificant for most family members that the wife usually took over the family name. Caring for a good family name has always been linked to the reputation of an individual family in their wider social environment or society. The more important the good name of the entire family was in society, the more they gained power in creating new intimate relationships, including other relatives.

It would be completely inappropriate, however, for family friends or acquaintances to interfere when creating a new marriage and/or family. Namely, the new marriage or family should not concern them much, since they will not share a common household and house or a common business or family name. Therefore, their exclusion from the debate about future marriage or family is completely artificial.

In recent times, when children and now adults are said to live in separate households and/or houses, even their parents are said to have lost their role in creating a new marriage or family. Thus, in free modernity, only two individuals bear full responsibility for the creation of a new marriage or family, or we know marriage or some other form of intimate union only between two people without appropriate and inappropriate interference from third parties or others. Likewise, in modern society, the achievements or falls of individuals are supposed to be recognized, since the paradigm of individuality has become established, not the family as a whole.

Such is the ideal-typical development of creating a family, although in the history of human society we know of ups and downs, the emergence of new social forms or the repetition of archaic patterns of the entire social structure, not just the family.