Our response to a traumatic experience

  Very few people have had everything "laid with roses" in their lives, which also means that their life flows like a river without rapids and cliffs. At least occasionally, every person encounters problems that we overcome in one way or another, successfully or unsuccessfully.

At least occasionally, in our daily lives, we encounter insults, slander, rejection and harm, as well as many other negative inputs into our lives.

Some experts advise not to respond to insults, while others advise that it is better to deny them immediately, as they can escalate into public lynchings. Slander is difficult to prove and usually leads to the path of proving one's innocence. In other words, insinuations to our detriment or even simple mobbing can have many meanings and/or reasons for taking advantage. In any case, in such mutual relationships, we very often over-explain the actual situation and reveal our information. If we are lucky, we do not make things worse by reacting this way, because this is how slanderers obtain our data, which we usually do not disclose. However, it will be very difficult for us to find out about the perpetrator's real data. A good safeguard against such people is to request their data and the source of the information. Reporting a public discussion about your data also helps, as it is supposed to be protected by the Personal Data Protection Act. Of course, such a safeguard against such traumas requires a lot of discipline and resistance to quick, mindless reactions when we are exposed to psychological and social violence, although such a reaction can be described as affect or simply violent.

 When causing material damage, we usually call the police and hope that they will initiate proceedings against the perpetrator ex officio and if we are lucky we will not hear about the perpetrator's traumatic experiences of one kind or another and their material endangerment and the large number of children who cannot be provided for otherwise than by engaging in criminal acts such as theft, taking someone else's property, burglaries, breaking and entering and assaults. Usually, a mitigating circumstance is also drug and alcohol addiction and also medical conditions such as kleptomania. What we are left with is unpaid damage and, simply put, a traumatic life experience.

If the mitigating circumstance for perpetrators of criminal acts is their family and material difficulties, which caused further acts against other people and their property, then such people could be described as contagious. By causing harm to others in their psychological, social, business and material situation, it is possible that these people-victims, especially in the event that they do not receive satisfaction and/or compensation for the damage, can themselves become traumatic people who shift their past negative life experiences with other people onto other people's shoulders and cause others, not the perpetrators, to simply have traumatic life experiences. Such an actual state of chain reactions of the transfer of traumatic experiences could simply be called a vicious circle of violence and abuse, which is difficult to break or interrupt.

The most that people-victims can do for our own good is to simply not allow such actions to throw us off our established life track and leave us with a lasting mark on our lives that prevents us from having a normal psycho-social life. We immediately isolate and throw out of our lives the people who cause us trauma. One traumatic experience is said to forever leave a negative mark on all further contacts or social interaction, and thus we can prevent the continuation of our traumas of violence, exploitation or exploitation, and profiting at our expense or simply destroying our lives and/or property.